unsolicited but beta-tested advice about a family mansplainer ahoy (feel free to ignore or adjust to your own needs/energies)
If there is another person in your class who is equally annoyed with this dude or sees your annoyance, you might be able to tag team him? this is what my sister and brother-in-law and I have been doing when my dad goes all white dude let-me-show-you-how-not-racist-I-am-black-son-in-law mainsplainy interrupty at family gatherings.
(one of us is talking, usually my sister or I) my dad interrupts with an unrelated story (sister and I make eye contact of shared annoyance) dad finishes, person who was not interrupted goes, "hmm. so [other person], you were saying something about ___?" (continue conversation that happened before derailing)
or
my dad starts talking in a very *facepalm* way about Racial Issues to my brother-in-law (like How He Voted for Obama or asking my brother-in-law's opinion about Current Loaded Racial Topic in the News, which is funnily the only current events topic my dad ever wants to talk about with my BIL) (my sister takes on talking to my dad) (I talk about sportsball or TV or books with my brother in law so he doesn't have to deal with bullshit) (we do a dance in our heads) (my dad is annoyed because he doesn't watch sportsball and why don't we see what a good white person he is being!!!)
so if you have an ally or two, if dudebros interrupt or are wrong, you can get a voice or two to support you/reintroduce your topic/point out that dude just said what you said five minutes ago/etc. and you can reciprocate.
if you aren't sure how to initiate after class or whatnot, will say that at my house this happened organically and without planning by my sister or I occasionally doing it in conversation for each other, realizing what the other was doing, and it becoming an unspoken pact thing. so you could always try seeing if it's happening to other classmates and (on a day when you have spoons), speaking up for them? and maybe commiserating after class.
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Date: 2015-11-11 12:16 pm (UTC)If there is another person in your class who is equally annoyed with this dude or sees your annoyance, you might be able to tag team him? this is what my sister and brother-in-law and I have been doing when my dad goes all white dude let-me-show-you-how-not-racist-I-am-black-son-in-law mainsplainy interrupty at family gatherings.
(one of us is talking, usually my sister or I)
my dad interrupts with an unrelated story
(sister and I make eye contact of shared annoyance)
dad finishes, person who was not interrupted goes, "hmm. so [other person], you were saying something about ___?"
(continue conversation that happened before derailing)
or
my dad starts talking in a very *facepalm* way about Racial Issues to my brother-in-law (like How He Voted for Obama or asking my brother-in-law's opinion about Current Loaded Racial Topic in the News, which is funnily the only current events topic my dad ever wants to talk about with my BIL)
(my sister takes on talking to my dad)
(I talk about sportsball or TV or books with my brother in law so he doesn't have to deal with bullshit)
(we do a dance in our heads)
(my dad is annoyed because he doesn't watch sportsball and why don't we see what a good white person he is being!!!)
so if you have an ally or two, if dudebros interrupt or are wrong, you can get a voice or two to support you/reintroduce your topic/point out that dude just said what you said five minutes ago/etc. and you can reciprocate.
if you aren't sure how to initiate after class or whatnot, will say that at my house this happened organically and without planning by my sister or I occasionally doing it in conversation for each other, realizing what the other was doing, and it becoming an unspoken pact thing. so you could always try seeing if it's happening to other classmates and (on a day when you have spoons), speaking up for them? and maybe commiserating after class.